At the age of eight, I was sexually abused for two years, not by a stranger, but a family member. When I finally told my parents I remember feeling confused, like I was the one to blame, and even ashamed. Recently during a classroom conversation one of my scholars said, “I don’t get it, if a person is abused, why can’t they just say something? That makes no sense to me”. This is what causes many victims to remain silent because of embarrassment, fear, and possibly being ostracized by others who question their experience. I can’t undo what has happened to me, which is why I recognize the impact of trauma and how it manifests itself throughout our classrooms, whether it be from adults or children. As a result:
1. @Motthallbridges behavior issues are handled on a case-by-case basis, which requires a lot of talking, interventions, and parental conferences before considering a disciplinary action.
2. Mental health support is provided to staff members and scholars on a weekly basis, because in our community therapy is viewed as being “crazy”, instead of as an act of “healing”.
3. We are revamping our health education curriculum to include topics of sexual abuse and harassment because we must educate both MALES and FEMALES on the impact is has on the well-being of others.
4. Parents need to let their children know that an abuser doesn’t have a specific gender, age, or race; they can be a family member, friend, or stranger.
This morning I decided to share my story because this didn’t happen in the workplace, it took place in a scared space—my home. ️
There are a lot of individuals with a similar experience, but are silenced by shame, judgment, or threats. I want to let you know that being abused is not your fault, no one ever has the right to violate you, especially not your family. It’s not okay for anyone to tell the victim, “Get over it!” The process of healing isn’t pretty, I’ve dealt with plenty of setbacks, but making time to get to a place of wellness is necessary #theLopezEffect #theCall #HerStory #Survivor #MeToo - 9 days ago