I recall the warmth of affection, insecurities seeming to melt away in the strong arms and acceptance of my man's love. This lead to sin outside of marriage which felt good in the moment, I mean we were "committed to each other and planning on getting married, were engaged." But soon the heartache of being left behind, love, and promises for the future breeched and destroyed replaced the good memories.
My face swollen from tears of pain and regret replaced all those temporary good feelings. Grieving prayers, phone calls to friends and family flowed instead. Though so many years ago, even recent short lived Christian relationships having a level of love, hugs and kisses ended with a period of painful grieving and regret. I'm sticking to a resolve now to only date a godly man who agrees to accountability with another couple and no kissing before marriage. Why strike a match to a produce a spark when you can't start a fire?
If more marriages end that begin with sex before marriage, and from adultery, and a 2016 survey revealed 42% end in general, why not increase your chances of a life long marriage by pleasing God with purity and abstinence? "Everything is permissible, but not everything is helpful. Everything is permissible, but not everything builds up." 1 Cor. 10:23 Paul is speaking to the church, not people outside of it, though certainly a nonbeliever in Christ might have conviction as a result of reading these words leading to salvation. We all need this reminder and to guard our hearts and minds. The struggle is real, but God has mercy and will help His children. Don't settle for anything less than God's best. - 1 day ago