Here's what most people don't tell you about weight loss: it will not change who you are at your core. Plain and simple. Weight loss shrinks your dress size, it does not make you smarter, prettier, kinder, more likeable or less of an asshole. It does not change your eyelash length, ear size, personality or past. It may give you a little more confidence to go shopping but the things you hate and/or love about yourself will still be there in the end.
When I started my weight loss journey in 2015, I knew this was the last missing piece to *my* puzzle. I had already created a life I loved. I just needed to get this part in order to be able to enjoy it more. I had my own business, ideal clients, an amazing husband, great friends, a peaceful home life, etc. I had worked on both changing AND *accepting* things about myself for a long time prior to that. I was never in it for my 15 mins, or the prize money or a career. I already had that. I was, however, spiritually broken and fat, byproducts of a lot of awful bullshit I had been dragging with me for years, so I set out to fix that. I had to face a lot of uncomfortable things before I could tackle physical changes
I think a lot of people assume if they can just fit into a smaller pant size all of their problems would disappear. But let me tell you, that is NOT so. The insecurities you have now will still be there. Likewise, the things you love about yourself, your strengths, your passions, your good...they will be there too. If all you're after is a temporary high of fitting into a certain size, it may not last. That's how people end up gaining the weight back and then some. I know because I've been there. There's more to a transformation than shrinking and not everyone is ready to confront what's beneath a few layers of extra body fat. You must dig deeper and sort those things out first. After all, you'll be stuck with YOU forever.
Find your weaknesses and confront them. Find your strengths and fortify them. Find a tribe you can count on and ditch the negativity. Focus on yourself from the inside out. Once you identify what's missing or unnecessary, do what needs to be done. Everything else will fall in place. - 5 hours ago