Dear Future Adoptive Moms,
What you thought you believed about adoption, what you swore you believed about adoption, what you were unwavering on when it came to adoption...........it's all about to change. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And when it changes, it will be this force that crept into your psyche, seemingly overnight, and it will feel like it's always been this way, like what you believe now is what you were so rock solid on before, even though, it's in fact, just the opposite. You'll deny that you ever thought about your adoption criteria, about the process, the idea that open adoption was scary, risky, strange, politically correct, or for someone else. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You'll be irritated at others when they express doubt about what you're doing, how you're doing it, why your mindset is changing, and why they can't just 'get there' with you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You'll start to feel like anything else would be unnatural, like writing with the opposite hand, driving on the other side of the road, or sleeping on a different side of the bed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When you start the adoption process it will feel like your criteria and open adoption is chasing you, threatening to defeat your will, about to overtake you, sucking up your determination about the process and then...........when it catches you........
You'll realize that it was never trying to beat you. It was trying to catch up with you. It wants to help you maneuver through the rest of the race, give you a purpose for continuing to work hard and win, and to help you see adoption in its most pure, loving, and sacrificial light. It will make you a champion for the case you thought you would never accept.
It will make you an adoption nut. You'll want to wear a pro-adoption sandwich board wherever you go so that people know to ask you about adoption so that you can tell them how it changed so many lives and how it will expand your family in more ways than simply giving you this amazing gift to raise and love beyond words.
Continued - 12 days ago