I used to be so codependent on a man to make me feel good about myself...
I used to deal with things no woman should deal with ever just because I was scared to be alone and loveless.
It was a pattern for me. I don't think I have ever been in a healthy relationship since I started dating in high school.
I had this perception that I could change people who didn't want to be changed.
That I could make them love and respect me the way I respected and loved them because I thought I needed them to love me to make me feel good. And to help me accomplish my dreams and aspirations when in reality they all played a part in pushing me further away from all of the things I wanted to accomplish. I got so caught up in the idea of love with these little boys that I completely lost myself... After a year and a month into this journey I am more of the boss woman that I always have wanted to be.
I am more independent and I am more aware of what I want in life and what I deserve. I no longer NEED A GUY to validate my beauty or strength.
I no longer seek approval from guys and I seek my own approval and love myself whole heartedly. Ladies... Never lose yourself in an unhealthy relationship.
It has taken me a year to get to this place.. And I still have ways to go before I am exactly where I need to be.
Don't settle EVER.
Don't stay when you know you should go!
You are AMAZING all ALONE BELIEVE THAT.
I am blessed I HAVE COME THIS FAR.
INDEPENDENCE IS SOOO FREEING and Codependence is literally a prison sentence of your mind, body and soul.
Break FREE... You will feel soo much better.
I know now what to seek from a man and the blessing for him someday is the fact that I won't NEED him but I WILL WANT HIM. And that kind of love is so powerful because we will be equals, we will want to be with eachother and we will love and respect eachother on the level we both deserve. We will be a team, a power couple, boss ass babes together Making the change was scary... But I have literally gotten uncomfortable to become comfortable...
I am looking for 5 women who can relate.. Who are serious about getting healthy mind, body and soul. - 6 hours ago