Couples researcher Dr. John Gottman found 6 common areas of marital conflict that even happy couples argue about:
1️⃣WORK STRESS: identify and respect the ways each partner wants to decompress and check in daily by asking, "how was your day?" then listen empathetically (don't jump into fix-it mode). 2️⃣IN-LAWS: it's essential to set boundaries and put your spouse first.
3️⃣MONEY: many couples struggle to talk about money so it’s important to lay t out there, discuss your expectations, compromise, and set firm non-negotiables. .
4️⃣SEX: Conflicts tend to reflect differing needs for intimacy, which includes an emotional component, not just physical. Sex needs to be talked about!
5️⃣HOUSEWORK: research shows when a husband does more housework, both hubby & wife report a more satisfying sex life compared to when the wife thinks he's not doing his share, if he has to be asked to do his chores, and if he's not flexible in his duties in response to her needs. .
6️⃣NEW BABY: you must transition into parenthood together and work as a team. - 10 hours ago