I talked to my friend for hours yesterday about apologizing.
It was a beautiful, raw, and emotional conversation about friendship, and friendship between women specifically, and the willingness to admit when we’re wrong.
We wondered between us, what makes it so difficult for women to apologize to each other?
We mused that maybe it’s because women are constantly apologizing even when we shouldn’t. I think a lot of us have done so much inner work to get to a point of NOT apologizing, that we don’t know how to legitimately be apologetic when necessary. I mean, even one of my idols, Rachel Hollis, is coming out with a book called “Girl, Stop Apologizing”. Because we all apologize for stupid stuff! But we don’t apologize for the REAL stuff, the stuff we do woman to woman, like not showing up when we said we would or a miscommunication or misrepresenting each other or talking gossip. It all happens, guys. But why can’t we say we’re sorry for it?
Again, I’m talking about lady to lady apologies specifically.
It’s one of those paradoxes that my analytical brain tosses around at random times, and I am grateful to have an inquisitive and intelligent as hell woman in my life to kick stuff like that around around with me.
Get you a lady friend or seven you can talk about deep stuff with asap. And let’s figure out how to apologize to each other.
I’d like to think about this more, but my immediate response to how we tackle this is building inner confidence. A person who is secure in who they are is easily able to admit when they are wrong, and apologize, I think. They have a hunger to always be better, they have a desire to grow. Ultimately, they know that breaking down barriers to apologize allows for deeper connection with other women.
Ladies, I want to know your thoughts on apologizing. What do you think stands in our way, if you agree women have a tough time with it? - 12 hours ago