the.gentleman.wolf

Joel Clemons

Relationship & life coach, Writer, Behavioral science, Solutionist, INFJ.
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In a loving relationship w/ @snowwolfunleashed

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Have you ever wondered why you choose people to love who end up hurting you? Or why you are drawn to a certain type of person who mistreats or neglects you? It's because you do not know that you are already love, so you become a beggar for love. This makes you dependent on others for your need of love, approval and acceptance. When you don't have enough self love, self worth and self respect, then you aren't able to recognize the QUALITY of a person's love, all you know is that this person is treating YOU better than you are treating yourself, so you are drawn to them because they bring you relief from the discomfort of your relationship with yourself. This causes a dependency and addiction to a person who now has the power to reward or punish you as they see fit. The greater the pain they cause you, the greater the feeling of relief you get when they bring you comfort from your pain, like a high that brings pleasure from the pain. Essentially, they withhold love (the same as when a drug addict goes through withdrawal and experiences intense pain) until you are begging them to love you and when they give you what you want, you'll do anything for them in order to not have to go through withdrawal again. Just as an actual beggar never feels physically safe, you never feel emotionally safe and so your relationship never makes you feel stronger or be able to actually love or trust yourself.
If you knew the truth, that you are already love; love having a human experience, then you would be able to break your addictions and choose a partner who knows how to love you almost as well as you love yourself. You would recognize the quality of a person's love because of the quality of your own. You could actually choose someone who raises your value instead of discounts you. Someone who gives to you out of the abundance of their love instead of bleeding you dry of your own. If you knew how rich your heart is in love, you would never beg anyone ever again. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf • phone coaching sessions available.

Have you ever wondered why you choose people to love who end up hurting you? Or why you are drawn to a certain type of person who mistreats or neglects you? It's because you do not know that you are already love, so you become a beggar for love. This makes you dependent on others for your need of love, approval and acceptance. When you don't have enough self love, self worth and self respect, then you aren't able to recognize the QUALITY of a person's love, all you know is that this person is treating YOU better than you are treating yourself, so you are drawn to them because they bring you relief from the discomfort of your relationship with yourself. This causes a dependency and addiction to a person who now has the power to reward or punish you as they see fit. The greater the pain they cause you, the greater the feeling of relief you get when they bring you comfort from your pain, like a high that brings pleasure from the pain. Essentially, they withhold love (the same as when a drug addict goes through withdrawal and experiences intense pain) until you are begging them to love you and when they give you what you want, you'll do anything for them in order to not have to go through withdrawal again. Just as an actual beggar never feels physically safe, you never feel emotionally safe and so your relationship never makes you feel stronger or be able to actually love or trust yourself. If you knew the truth, that you are already love; love having a human experience, then you would be able to break your addictions and choose a partner who knows how to love you almost as well as you love yourself. You would recognize the quality of a person's love because of the quality of your own. You could actually choose someone who raises your value instead of discounts you. Someone who gives to you out of the abundance of their love instead of bleeding you dry of your own. If you knew how rich your heart is in love, you would never beg anyone ever again. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf • phone coaching sessions available. - 2 days ago

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"If someone wants to be with you and I mean truly be with you, he will do everything in his power to make sure that you know. There will be no games. No words with hidden meanings. No endless nights where you read over your conversations to try to add the pieces to a love puzzle that you have created in your mind. You will just know and it is as simple as that. You won't have to figure anything out because his words will make it clear to you, his eyes will tell you and his actions will show you. If someone truly wants to be with you they will do everything in their power to get you. And if they don't. If you find yourself questioning what he says or the things that he does, if he confuses you and gives you mixed signals, if he implies that he likes you but he doesn't say it then he doesn't truly want to be with you. Let me tell you what he's doing, he is trying to hold onto all of his options so that he ends up picking the right one. He is testing to see if you are good enough for him. And you, my love, are not an option for anyone. So remember this well. If  someone  wants  to  be  with  you,  he  will  be  with  you." -Ruby Dhal @r.dhalwriter
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"If someone wants to be with you and I mean truly be with you, he will do everything in his power to make sure that you know. There will be no games. No words with hidden meanings. No endless nights where you read over your conversations to try to add the pieces to a love puzzle that you have created in your mind. You will just know and it is as simple as that. You won't have to figure anything out because his words will make it clear to you, his eyes will tell you and his actions will show you. If someone truly wants to be with you they will do everything in their power to get you. And if they don't. If you find yourself questioning what he says or the things that he does, if he confuses you and gives you mixed signals, if he implies that he likes you but he doesn't say it then he doesn't truly want to be with you. Let me tell you what he's doing, he is trying to hold onto all of his options so that he ends up picking the right one. He is testing to see if you are good enough for him. And you, my love, are not an option for anyone. So remember this well. If someone wants to be with you, he will be with you." -Ruby Dhal @r.dhalwriter • Photo credit: @myrtleandmossphotography - 4 days ago

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Why do so many relationships fail? Because we try to experience love through our fear based egoic self. Our ego is our false sense of self, an identity created by our environment; it's who we think we are supposed to be in order to fit in, gain acceptance, approval and validation from others so that we can belong to a community. Belonging to a community is part of our survival instinct, our community helps protect and support us. However, our ego is not who we really are, it's who we were taught to be. If you had been born in a different country, a different society or culture, your ego would be completely different; who you would believe yourself to be and what you would desire would be very different.
The nature of our ego is to conform and comply, if we resist or rebel, then we risk becoming an outcast. That makes our ego fear based, dependent on the approval and acceptance of others. That also means that our ego can be a coward and a bully; coward for needing the acceptance of others more than our own, for giving in and conforming instead of standing up for who we were before the world told us who we're supposed to be. Our ego then "bullies" us (and others) when it doesn't get the validation it needs by being critical, shaming, blaming or making us feel unlovable (that's the judgemental voice in your head). So, while the ego allows us to fit in and excel (adding to our value in the community), it can not be what leads us if we want a loving relationship because a true relationship can only be healthy if it is built on trust, honesty, empathy and acceptance of each other's true self. The ego loves selfishly, possessively, out of fear of loss. The ego says: "I don't really care about you, I only care about what you think of me." Love says: "I don't really care about what you think of me because I love you." If we want to experience true love, then we must love with our true self. We can't love through fear, we can't be a coward in love. Only the courageous experience an epic love.
-Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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Why do so many relationships fail? Because we try to experience love through our fear based egoic self. Our ego is our false sense of self, an identity created by our environment; it's who we think we are supposed to be in order to fit in, gain acceptance, approval and validation from others so that we can belong to a community. Belonging to a community is part of our survival instinct, our community helps protect and support us. However, our ego is not who we really are, it's who we were taught to be. If you had been born in a different country, a different society or culture, your ego would be completely different; who you would believe yourself to be and what you would desire would be very different. The nature of our ego is to conform and comply, if we resist or rebel, then we risk becoming an outcast. That makes our ego fear based, dependent on the approval and acceptance of others. That also means that our ego can be a coward and a bully; coward for needing the acceptance of others more than our own, for giving in and conforming instead of standing up for who we were before the world told us who we're supposed to be. Our ego then "bullies" us (and others) when it doesn't get the validation it needs by being critical, shaming, blaming or making us feel unlovable (that's the judgemental voice in your head). So, while the ego allows us to fit in and excel (adding to our value in the community), it can not be what leads us if we want a loving relationship because a true relationship can only be healthy if it is built on trust, honesty, empathy and acceptance of each other's true self. The ego loves selfishly, possessively, out of fear of loss. The ego says: "I don't really care about you, I only care about what you think of me." Love says: "I don't really care about what you think of me because I love you." If we want to experience true love, then we must love with our true self. We can't love through fear, we can't be a coward in love. Only the courageous experience an epic love. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @kat_in_nyc - 5 days ago

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You see me... not for who I'm supposed to be, but for who I really am... you breathed life into the person I had nearly given up on becoming. You saw me... with all of my flaws and scars and you loved me even more. You made me feel safe enough to show you parts of me that I had hidden away... like digging up old photographs of me as a child that I had never shown anyone else. You took away the pain of my own reflection and gave me something to love instead. You don't let me fall because of what others think of me, of what I think of me, no... you help me to rise up by showing me that the love in my heart is stronger than the fear in my mind. When I look into your eyes, I see the freedom to love and be loved... I see hope even on the weariest of my days. -Joel Clemons @the.gentleman.wolf
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You see me... not for who I'm supposed to be, but for who I really am... you breathed life into the person I had nearly given up on becoming. You saw me... with all of my flaws and scars and you loved me even more. You made me feel safe enough to show you parts of me that I had hidden away... like digging up old photographs of me as a child that I had never shown anyone else. You took away the pain of my own reflection and gave me something to love instead. You don't let me fall because of what others think of me, of what I think of me, no... you help me to rise up by showing me that the love in my heart is stronger than the fear in my mind. When I look into your eyes, I see the freedom to love and be loved... I see hope even on the weariest of my days. -Joel Clemons @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @nicoleashley - 8 days ago

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Good communication is often a struggle for couples. We want to be heard and understood but often hold back saying how we really feel out of fear of conflict, fear of hurting our partner's feelings or rejection of our own. The first step before talking is trying to understand how we actually feel, not just reacting to our initial thought or feeling. If we feel hurt, instead of lashing out at the other person, understand where this feeling is really coming from. Was it truly the other person that hurt us or are we reacting from fear or old wounds? If we discern that this is our issue and not something the other person has intentionally done, then we need to own it and take responsibility for our own healing. If the other person is responsible for the injury, then explaining to them how their action is affecting us in a non judgemental way will give them the opportunity to make amends. Keeping guilt, shame and blame out of our verbal and nonverbal communication will keep the door open to understanding and trust. Don't bottle up your feelings, understand them and share them the way you would share a meal, with love and in a way that makes your words easy to digest. How amazing is it when two people feel safe opening up to each other and want to share everything that they think and feel.
-Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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(If you want help understanding your partner and relationship with the intention of creating better, more meaningful communication & connection, phone coaching sessions are available.)
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Good communication is often a struggle for couples. We want to be heard and understood but often hold back saying how we really feel out of fear of conflict, fear of hurting our partner's feelings or rejection of our own. The first step before talking is trying to understand how we actually feel, not just reacting to our initial thought or feeling. If we feel hurt, instead of lashing out at the other person, understand where this feeling is really coming from. Was it truly the other person that hurt us or are we reacting from fear or old wounds? If we discern that this is our issue and not something the other person has intentionally done, then we need to own it and take responsibility for our own healing. If the other person is responsible for the injury, then explaining to them how their action is affecting us in a non judgemental way will give them the opportunity to make amends. Keeping guilt, shame and blame out of our verbal and nonverbal communication will keep the door open to understanding and trust. Don't bottle up your feelings, understand them and share them the way you would share a meal, with love and in a way that makes your words easy to digest. How amazing is it when two people feel safe opening up to each other and want to share everything that they think and feel. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf ______________________ (If you want help understanding your partner and relationship with the intention of creating better, more meaningful communication & connection, phone coaching sessions are available.) • Photo credit: @nicoleashley - 8 days ago

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"You were an unexpected surprise. The defining moment. The collision of stars that slammed into me hard and sent my neat little world plummetting into the ocean. I never expected it to be you, you know? But it is you, it's all you. And now there's no turning back." -Beau Taplin • The defining moment @beautaplin •
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"You were an unexpected surprise. The defining moment. The collision of stars that slammed into me hard and sent my neat little world plummetting into the ocean. I never expected it to be you, you know? But it is you, it's all you. And now there's no turning back." -Beau Taplin • The defining moment @beautaplin • Photo credit: @bradandjen - 11 days ago

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The pain that we cause ourselves, we will ultimately inflict on others. The more that we suffer in our relationship with our self, the more suffering we bring into our intimate relationship. Here are some ways that we could be doing that: 
When we don't learn how to love ourselves and cope emotionally, we could end up projecting our fears and insecurities on to our partner, causing them to now feel untrustworthy, afraid of rejection or abandonment or not be able to cope emotionally in the relationship; we create the things we're afraid of.
If we feel hurt and are unable to express how we feel, then the tendency is to make our partner FEEL the way we feel; to hurt them back. How many times have we said or did something and regretted it because we saw how much it hurt someone else? 
So then, how can we stop creating pain for ourselves? By pausing before we react and consciously choosing what we want to happen. Set your intention on how you WANT you and your partner to feel. Whatever your real intention is, that's what you will create, so choose the experience that you WANT to have.
If your partner says something that hurts your feelings, ask: "are they trying to hurt me or are they struggling and really just want reassurance of my love for them? Do I ask for what I need or do I lash out when I'm afraid of rejection?"
The key is, be kind to yourself — always. Don't let your hurt cause you to hurt someone else, this only continues the cycle of pain. Listen to what your heart is telling you, not your head. Your heart wants to show love and empathy, it's your mind that wants to fight or run away.
When we learn to change our perspective and intention from causing problems and pain to causing peace and healing, then we are creating solutions that will get us what we really want: love and connection. By focusing on what we want instead of what we're afraid of, we create a healing process, not only for ourselves, but for our partner and even our children; we stop becoming a source of pain and become a source of love. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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The pain that we cause ourselves, we will ultimately inflict on others. The more that we suffer in our relationship with our self, the more suffering we bring into our intimate relationship. Here are some ways that we could be doing that: When we don't learn how to love ourselves and cope emotionally, we could end up projecting our fears and insecurities on to our partner, causing them to now feel untrustworthy, afraid of rejection or abandonment or not be able to cope emotionally in the relationship; we create the things we're afraid of. If we feel hurt and are unable to express how we feel, then the tendency is to make our partner FEEL the way we feel; to hurt them back. How many times have we said or did something and regretted it because we saw how much it hurt someone else? So then, how can we stop creating pain for ourselves? By pausing before we react and consciously choosing what we want to happen. Set your intention on how you WANT you and your partner to feel. Whatever your real intention is, that's what you will create, so choose the experience that you WANT to have. If your partner says something that hurts your feelings, ask: "are they trying to hurt me or are they struggling and really just want reassurance of my love for them? Do I ask for what I need or do I lash out when I'm afraid of rejection?" The key is, be kind to yourself — always. Don't let your hurt cause you to hurt someone else, this only continues the cycle of pain. Listen to what your heart is telling you, not your head. Your heart wants to show love and empathy, it's your mind that wants to fight or run away. When we learn to change our perspective and intention from causing problems and pain to causing peace and healing, then we are creating solutions that will get us what we really want: love and connection. By focusing on what we want instead of what we're afraid of, we create a healing process, not only for ourselves, but for our partner and even our children; we stop becoming a source of pain and become a source of love. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf credit: @kat_in_nyc - 12 days ago

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"Life is not a fairytale or a 50 Shades of Grey episode. Men don't sit around contemplating how to be your perfect Prince Charming. They are not here to enact all your secret fantasies. They are too busy actually taking care of you and your home and your children and your lifestyle. Stop expecting your man to be someone he's not and start seeing who he is and appreciate him. Uplift him. Empower him. Enjoy him. Don't bash him all over social media and then wonder why he pulls away from you. That's not love. That's distasteful and disrespectful. To injure a man's reputation and pride in front of your friends and family is one of the most hurtful ways to harm your husband because respect and admiration is essential to any mans well-being as it is part of their core needs."
-Angela Cochran @snowwolfunleashed (This post is for couples in normal relationships. Not narcissistic or abusive ones.)
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This applies to both men and women. Instead of humiliating your partner and alienating them from your friends and family, work out your differences privately or talk to a counselor who can help you learn how to communicate more effectively. Work with someone who can help you understand why you feel the way you do, who can help you ask for what you want. Make your intention to bring out the best in each other and build each other up in love. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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"Life is not a fairytale or a 50 Shades of Grey episode. Men don't sit around contemplating how to be your perfect Prince Charming. They are not here to enact all your secret fantasies. They are too busy actually taking care of you and your home and your children and your lifestyle. Stop expecting your man to be someone he's not and start seeing who he is and appreciate him. Uplift him. Empower him. Enjoy him. Don't bash him all over social media and then wonder why he pulls away from you. That's not love. That's distasteful and disrespectful. To injure a man's reputation and pride in front of your friends and family is one of the most hurtful ways to harm your husband because respect and admiration is essential to any mans well-being as it is part of their core needs." -Angela Cochran @snowwolfunleashed (This post is for couples in normal relationships. Not narcissistic or abusive ones.) • This applies to both men and women. Instead of humiliating your partner and alienating them from your friends and family, work out your differences privately or talk to a counselor who can help you learn how to communicate more effectively. Work with someone who can help you understand why you feel the way you do, who can help you ask for what you want. Make your intention to bring out the best in each other and build each other up in love. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @nabazabihphotography - 15 days ago

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"But he told me that he loved me, that he's never felt this way about anyone before. He told me things that he said he had never shared with anyone else. After just a month, I met his family, we talked about the future, having kids, traveling together. He made me feel special, like I was the only one who really knew him and how amazing it was that we both liked all the same things. He would call or message me ten times a day. How could he cheat on me and lie to me this way?"
This is an example of love bombing — when a person attempts to break down your guard, gain your trust and establish a strong and intense emotional connection in a short period of time, overwhelming your heart and mind like a drug that creates a feeling of euphoria and pleasure that you quickly become addicted to and feel like you can't live without.
They learn what attention and flattery you respond to the best and what boundaries you will allow them to cross so that they know the best way to manipulate you emotionally and keep you on the hook so that when you find out about the lies or cheating, you will not only put up with it but will beg them to stay, feeling like you can't give up on your love. You will start to actually doubt and blame yourself and wonder what you did wrong in the relationship, and they will be all too happy to reinforce that idea.
At this point, you bottom out and the euphoria turns into suffering, like you're going through withdrawal, and that's when you'll do anything for relief by reaching out to them or opening the door when they reach out to you. They wait until you are hurting and suffering just enough that when they start love bombing you again, you will be so grateful that you'll give them anything they want to keep that feeling of being special and loved going. This is a trap.
Be careful of anyone who moves too fast to create trust by being too personal or knows how to say all the right things to make you feel like you have a "special connection." A person who respects you will take the time to get to know you and not try to force themselves into your life.
(This applies to men and women)
-Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf

"But he told me that he loved me, that he's never felt this way about anyone before. He told me things that he said he had never shared with anyone else. After just a month, I met his family, we talked about the future, having kids, traveling together. He made me feel special, like I was the only one who really knew him and how amazing it was that we both liked all the same things. He would call or message me ten times a day. How could he cheat on me and lie to me this way?" This is an example of love bombing — when a person attempts to break down your guard, gain your trust and establish a strong and intense emotional connection in a short period of time, overwhelming your heart and mind like a drug that creates a feeling of euphoria and pleasure that you quickly become addicted to and feel like you can't live without. They learn what attention and flattery you respond to the best and what boundaries you will allow them to cross so that they know the best way to manipulate you emotionally and keep you on the hook so that when you find out about the lies or cheating, you will not only put up with it but will beg them to stay, feeling like you can't give up on your love. You will start to actually doubt and blame yourself and wonder what you did wrong in the relationship, and they will be all too happy to reinforce that idea. At this point, you bottom out and the euphoria turns into suffering, like you're going through withdrawal, and that's when you'll do anything for relief by reaching out to them or opening the door when they reach out to you. They wait until you are hurting and suffering just enough that when they start love bombing you again, you will be so grateful that you'll give them anything they want to keep that feeling of being special and loved going. This is a trap. Be careful of anyone who moves too fast to create trust by being too personal or knows how to say all the right things to make you feel like you have a "special connection." A person who respects you will take the time to get to know you and not try to force themselves into your life. (This applies to men and women) -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf - 19 days ago

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What value do you place on yourself? To receive attention, do you let men make you feel like you need to be the low hanging fruit; easy to pick, convenient, at the ready whenever they want something from you, with little effort on their part? Or do you let them treat you like the fruit that's already fallen by letting them make you feel replaceable or mistreat you as something damaged? Have you let men take advantage of you by manipulating your emotions and trust when you're vulnerable, especially after another man has callously tossed you away?
Do you really see yourself as the fruit at the top of the tree and believe that if a man wants you then he needs to elevate himself up to where you are by learning how to love you and appreciate you the way that you deserve? Do you really believe that you are worthy of a higher love?
The man who deserves you is the man that is strong enough to climb that tree and prove his love for you. This is not about entitlement or feeling that you deserve something that you haven't worked for — it's doing your own work of learning how to love, value and respect yourself so that the love you share is the best, sweetest love, that you have to give from the heart that you've nurtured and protected. It's becoming the kind of person that you would want to be with. It's knowing your heart and being picky about who you share it with. It's about waiting for the right man and not settling for right now. 
Are you elevating yourself so that you attract a man who wants to support your growth and happiness? Or are you waiting to fall for a man who actually has no intention of catching you? What do your relationship patterns reveal? 
If you want a man to truly love, respect and value you, you have to set the standard, you have to determine your worth. No person will be perfect as they are, everyone comes with their baggage, issues and struggles, but what are they doing about it, are they putting forth the effort and taking responsibility for their own growth? Wait for a man who consistently reaches for you and 'picks' you because he knows that YOU are the best fruit on the tree.
-Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf

What value do you place on yourself? To receive attention, do you let men make you feel like you need to be the low hanging fruit; easy to pick, convenient, at the ready whenever they want something from you, with little effort on their part? Or do you let them treat you like the fruit that's already fallen by letting them make you feel replaceable or mistreat you as something damaged? Have you let men take advantage of you by manipulating your emotions and trust when you're vulnerable, especially after another man has callously tossed you away? Do you really see yourself as the fruit at the top of the tree and believe that if a man wants you then he needs to elevate himself up to where you are by learning how to love you and appreciate you the way that you deserve? Do you really believe that you are worthy of a higher love? The man who deserves you is the man that is strong enough to climb that tree and prove his love for you. This is not about entitlement or feeling that you deserve something that you haven't worked for — it's doing your own work of learning how to love, value and respect yourself so that the love you share is the best, sweetest love, that you have to give from the heart that you've nurtured and protected. It's becoming the kind of person that you would want to be with. It's knowing your heart and being picky about who you share it with. It's about waiting for the right man and not settling for right now. Are you elevating yourself so that you attract a man who wants to support your growth and happiness? Or are you waiting to fall for a man who actually has no intention of catching you? What do your relationship patterns reveal? If you want a man to truly love, respect and value you, you have to set the standard, you have to determine your worth. No person will be perfect as they are, everyone comes with their baggage, issues and struggles, but what are they doing about it, are they putting forth the effort and taking responsibility for their own growth? Wait for a man who consistently reaches for you and 'picks' you because he knows that YOU are the best fruit on the tree. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf - 21 days ago

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"I hope you find a love that’s easy. Really easy. The type of love where there aren’t any mixed signals, just you and this person looking at each other across the room and know you each have it best. 
I hope you find a love that’s selfless. The type of person who would do anything for you with no questions asked. The type of love where someone simply has your best interest at heart. The type of love where your happiness makes up so much of theirs.
I hope you find a love that’s willing to make sacrifices. The type of person who will meet you halfway. 
I hope you find a love that’s faithful. You look at them and you just know there isn’t anyone that can shake what you guys have. 
I hope you find a love that forgives you. The type of person who can see you make mistakes but also helps you to learn from them. The type of person who can see you at your worst and still think you’re incredible. The type of person who understands you aren’t perfect but looks at you like you’re the greatest thing that’s ever happened to them, flaws and all.
I hope you find a love that supports you. Someone who not only supports your dreams but wants to see you do well more than you do. 
I hope you find a love that will fight for you. Someone who will always be in your corner. Someone who will always choose you and the relationship you have. I hope you find someone who would anything to be with you. The type of person who won’t let you walk away but goes after you if you try to.
I hope you find someone who heals you. I hope you find someone who teaches you that you didn’t deserve what happened to you in the past. 
I hope you find a love that appreciates you. I hope you find the type of love that never stops saying thank you. The type of love that even after a long time they are still impressed by what you do for them. Someone who truly values you for all you are and the person you make them.
I hope you find a love that’s your best friend. Your loudest laugh. Your biggest smile. Your number one fan. Your happiest memories. You deserve it."
-Kirsten Corley @kirstencorleyofficial
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"I hope you find a love that’s easy. Really easy. The type of love where there aren’t any mixed signals, just you and this person looking at each other across the room and know you each have it best. I hope you find a love that’s selfless. The type of person who would do anything for you with no questions asked. The type of love where someone simply has your best interest at heart. The type of love where your happiness makes up so much of theirs. I hope you find a love that’s willing to make sacrifices. The type of person who will meet you halfway. I hope you find a love that’s faithful. You look at them and you just know there isn’t anyone that can shake what you guys have. I hope you find a love that forgives you. The type of person who can see you make mistakes but also helps you to learn from them. The type of person who can see you at your worst and still think you’re incredible. The type of person who understands you aren’t perfect but looks at you like you’re the greatest thing that’s ever happened to them, flaws and all. I hope you find a love that supports you. Someone who not only supports your dreams but wants to see you do well more than you do. I hope you find a love that will fight for you. Someone who will always be in your corner. Someone who will always choose you and the relationship you have. I hope you find someone who would anything to be with you. The type of person who won’t let you walk away but goes after you if you try to. I hope you find someone who heals you. I hope you find someone who teaches you that you didn’t deserve what happened to you in the past. I hope you find a love that appreciates you. I hope you find the type of love that never stops saying thank you. The type of love that even after a long time they are still impressed by what you do for them. Someone who truly values you for all you are and the person you make them. I hope you find a love that’s your best friend. Your loudest laugh. Your biggest smile. Your number one fan. Your happiest memories. You deserve it." -Kirsten Corley @kirstencorleyofficial • Photo credit: @portrait_mf - 23 days ago

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Since so many view dating as an activity and relationships as temporary, courtship is not a word that we hear that often anymore. Courtship is dating someone with the intention of wanting to build a future with them. It's not about games, manipulation or instant gratification, it means building a foundation of trust and respect, it's looking at someone as a potential life partner. You know how someone really feels about you by whether or not they make you, and their relationship with you, a priority. Are they actively showing their interest in you and what matters to you? Are they expressing the depth of their feelings for you so that you know how much you mean to them, no matter how long you've been together? 
This is especially important if you are in a long distance relationship. There needs to be even more communication and reassurance in order to make it work. Are they making plans to see you, spend time with you and figure out how and when you can be together? Are they reaching out to check on you and to say how much they miss you or are they ignoring you for days at a time and then giving excuses as to why they're too busy but still expect you to trust them? Do they act uncertain or disinterested unless they want something?
A person who really wants you and loves you doesn't stop courting you after you're a couple or after a year or even twenty years, to them, your heart is worth winning everyday. When we want something badly enough, we won't let anything get in our way; when we love someone enough, we will do whatever it takes to make sure that they not only know it, but feel it. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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Since so many view dating as an activity and relationships as temporary, courtship is not a word that we hear that often anymore. Courtship is dating someone with the intention of wanting to build a future with them. It's not about games, manipulation or instant gratification, it means building a foundation of trust and respect, it's looking at someone as a potential life partner. You know how someone really feels about you by whether or not they make you, and their relationship with you, a priority. Are they actively showing their interest in you and what matters to you? Are they expressing the depth of their feelings for you so that you know how much you mean to them, no matter how long you've been together? This is especially important if you are in a long distance relationship. There needs to be even more communication and reassurance in order to make it work. Are they making plans to see you, spend time with you and figure out how and when you can be together? Are they reaching out to check on you and to say how much they miss you or are they ignoring you for days at a time and then giving excuses as to why they're too busy but still expect you to trust them? Do they act uncertain or disinterested unless they want something? A person who really wants you and loves you doesn't stop courting you after you're a couple or after a year or even twenty years, to them, your heart is worth winning everyday. When we want something badly enough, we won't let anything get in our way; when we love someone enough, we will do whatever it takes to make sure that they not only know it, but feel it. -Joel Clemons • Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @myrtleandmossphotography - 24 days ago

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